Comfort zone, you hear so many people talking about “I’m in my comfort zone” or “ I can’t get out of my comfort zone” and I always think to myself – Whaaaaat!!!!
I want you to consider what is a comfort zone? To consider and find out what it really is.
I was listening to a fairly famous actor who has bipolar and I know that’s a horrible set of emotions and behaviours to have but he was asked “you’ve had it for such a long time haven’t you found a way of coming back to normal?” and this person said “I’m so used to being this way. I’m so used to being this way this is my comfort zone. I don’t know what’s on the other side and therefore I’m not going there and I’m not going to try to find a better way.” This guy was so far out of out of kilter with everyone else and was doing some crazy things and in some ways harming himself and others. It’s sad that he couldn’t see there is a way to change and to change easily and comfortably and find a wonderful life to experience.
I know I’m not in that position and I can look at it from a distance, a meta view as we call it in NLP, and I thought myself why is this so?
It’s got absolutely nothing to do with comfort, it’s so far from being comfortable, it’s the most inaptly named thing I’ve ever heard of. When you say I’m in my comfort zone it really means you’re in the familiar zone. it’s just familiar to you, this is what you’re used to. It could be I’m familiar with this crock of you know what, but I’m familiar with this life and therefore you know what to expect. But don’t kid yourself, don’t kid yourself that it is comfort, it isn’t, you’re just familiar with this way of being
If you were to acknowledge it, not accept it
– “this is where I’m at the moment”
If I could just put this down for a moment and look what could lie beyond the imaginary line, the imaginary boundary you created.
No one else has put it up, it’s yours and I know there was a great positive intention when it was first put up, unconsciously, to keep you safe. Safe from those positions where you might get hurt or embarrassed. But that was then and you have a wonderful set skills and you can access those wonderful set of skills and have the life you really want and also be safe from hurt or embarrassment
If you feel you’re stuck in this ‘familiar zone’ and want to change all you have to do is find out what’s available.
One way is to have a chat with me and find out you’re not alone with those feelings and how I can help. You will not be my first client to experience this and probably not the last so make a call and find out.
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